The Blame Game.

I've learnt a ridiculously important lesson recently. A lesson which is pretty much life changing; it's phenomenal, undeniable and so, so important. It's a lesson about people, the past and the future and something called ownership.

So often in life we come face to face with people who help us make a mess of our lives; someone who encourages us to get addicted to something pointless, someone who causes the people we care about to lose faith in us, someone who takes us away from our hopes and dreams and future. We get caught up in something we've unknowingly walked into and find ourselves blaming someone else for where we've ended up. It's a tough call and sometimes we really aren't the ones to blame, but the thing is that it's our life and no one else should be able to change that.

To put it bluntly, no one else is responsible for who I am and what I do. It‘s a choice; a constant choice to live in an honorable and morally upright way; or not. It doesn't really matter what I've done in the past, it doesn't matter who I've been, it doesn't matter how many people have come in and wrecked havoc in my life. My situation is not really their fault; it‘s the fault of the little voice that keeps saying that the past has taken away the future.

We all play the blame game. Whether we've been holding on to what someone did, or holding on to a tragedy that changed our lives; whether it happened yesterday or 5 years ago, if we're blaming something or someone for our situation right now, then welcome to the blame game.

There's a simple way out of this downward spiral- we like to call it ownership. Ownership hurts. It's putting a stop to blaming your past and instead taking ownership for yourself. It's being responsible for your actions and forgiving the people of the past. Ownership is freedom. Freedom from living a life which is constantly determined by what others have done to you, freedom from the things that should be forgotten, freedom from things that shouldn't matter.

Life's what you make it. It's not about the mistakes, it's about moving on and owning up. Live for the things that matter and don't hang onto things that don't. Don't get stuck living because of what someone else has done to you because that's a waste of a perfectly good life.